The Intoduction To Communication 101
Written by Jimmie Burroughs
I just took a quiz on communication and I answered the questions as honestly and objectively as I could and received a good score:
Wonderful! “You understand your role as a communicator, both when you send messages, and when you receive them. You anticipate issues, and you select the right techniques of communicating. Folks respect you for your capability to communicate clearly, and they appreciate your listening skills.”
Prior to getting the wrong idea and think I am boasting, let me explain: It has taken me many , many years to get to where I consider myself a good communicator. I am sure many have managed to get there faster than I. So I have nothing at all to crow about.
Turning into a good communicator is one of the first life talents to develop; it will complement the rest. Becoming a good communicator usual does need time and lots of practice, together with some failure. The failures are good teachers and buttress what good communication is. It’s great experience to hear and read after people who are believed to be good communicators.
The 3 common forms of communication are: Conversation; the printed word, and public address. In this post, we’ll be considering communication through conversation.
Many years ago, I had the privilege of meeting with and talking to Dr. Adrian Rogers, my pastor at the time. Dr. Rogers was one of the best communicators of the 20th century; he passed away in 2005. At the time I spoke with him, Dr. Rogers was president of the Southern Baptist Convention, and pastured one of the largest Baptist churches in the nation, which grew to 10,000 in attendance on Sunday mornings. His Television show can still be seen internationally.
I had a meeting with Dr. Rogers in his study and for approximately 30 minutes we talked back and forth. With no regard for his notoriety, he seemed as down to earth as anyone I’ve ever known. He was humble and extremely kind and listened scrupulously to what I had to assert without interfering with. He never questioned or criticised what I said. He showed great interest in me and wished to offer his help. Not surprising he was such a great communicator. He obviously loved folks and was concerned about their requirements.
I think that caring for others is at the very top of the list for becoming a good communicator. When you care for others, you may take time to carefully hear them out. Communication is never to be simply a one way street, where one individual does all of the speaking; it is sharing interests and info. Although, being a good communicator is first being a good listener.
If you’re a good listener, people will immediately regard you a good communicator and will like chatting to you. Being a good listener is not only paying attention to what is being said, but may also include , such as nods to show you are listening. It also can include eye contact and barely leaning forward while respecting the 3 foot rule privacy zone.
One of the most distracting things to any conversation is when a person is looking around the room as you try to talk to them. Give the other person your total attention. When you talk with someone, you should be giving 0:good communicator% of yourself. The only exception is when something similar to a typhoon is blowing the building away and you’ve got to take cover; well, maybe not that extreme, but you get the point.
Also talk in the other person’s interest. You could be thinking, but I would like to talk of myself and what I am doing, or have done. You aren’t alone; most people do, so it requires a special effort to let them do that. There will be chances for you to add something from your own interest that relates to the frame of reference of the conversation. Here’s the thinglead a conversation folk for the most part are engaging; that’s why we like movies and stories, so talking in the other person’s interest could lead to a very interesting conversation.
The point is that you can have a meaningful and fascinating conversation all woven around someone else’s interest. A communication has the intriguing ability to null without the other person ever suspecting it. Therefore is able to add zest to what might instead be a uninteresting conversation.
I’m hoping you like this document; there will be much more on the way, on the art of null.
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Jimmie Burroughs is an inspirational speaker and writer who has been involved in teaching Christian Personal Development for over 30 years. He is a dedicated disciple of Jesus Christ and considers helping folks his calling in life. His website contains over 600 articles on preparing yourself for success thru personal development and the things which accompany private development.
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